Are your insecurities dictating your destiny?

Being a personal trainer, you get to meet many wonderful people from a myriad of backgrounds, social environments and ideologies. One of the commonalities I have discovered in the decade I have been a trainer is that we all have insecurities, even the most grounded and seemingly secure individual will have some little devil on their shoulder from time to time....about our bodies, marital status, our children,our work and career...the list is endless. Some insecurities are not as gripping as others. Some however can cause so much dis-ease and pain within their host, that they literally can change the course and outcome of a persons life by the choices that individual makes, either to avoid or counteract the insecurity.

A successful person is one who is painfully aware of all their 'issues' and strives to achieve their goals maintaining course toward their ideal future regardless of their emotional baggage.

Are your insecurities dictating your destiny? Are they positive or negative-have you managed to identify what drives you and turned a potentially negative outcome into a very workable and positive situation? How often have you found yourself with yet another failed job, relationship or goal on your hands? There are always wonderful explanations for any individual situation, but are there perhaps commonalities and patterns of behaviour that have lead to the repetition of a situation or an outcome?

Unsure if you are at the beck-and-call of your fears? Try this:

1) Write down a list of your deepest fears and concerns for each aspect of your world(family, work,relationships, self). How have you prioritized your attention to each base on the fears you have identified?
2) Take a look at what is stopping you from acting toward your personal goals and what pattern of behaviour you have established to either avoid or counteract a given situations outcome.
3) Set a plan of action to managing or even eliminate the offending fear/insecurity- if you feel professional help is an answer then make sure you seek guidance from the correct channels
4) Above all take ownership and responsibility for the way you feel and the actions you have taken, by doing so you create a platform to exact lasting and real change.
5) Be kind to yourself, often when we comprehend the 'reality' or a situation rather than the 'perceived reality' we create, we can feel pretty silly and get very down on ourselves. This is counter productive to the ultimate outcome of positive change and future building. Accept your mistakes and actions and be proud of them. This is what makes life so interesting,all these elements are also what makes you, YOU. The lessons we learn and the people we meet doing so make life colourful....embrace change.

Above all accept the qualities that make you unique and create opportunities for choice rather than reacting from habit.